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  GUYS: The Importance of Keeping Medical Appointments

  by compound complex in

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  greetings, guys:.

  all of us -- men and women -- should keep our medical appointments.

  i address this post to guys, however, given my own reluctance to go to the doctor.

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  My husband refused to go for a yearly checkup for his entire life (His JW parents are rabidly against medical professionals.) He finally agreed to go when he turned 62. Unfortunately, his primary care doctor missed cancer. The only reason they found it was because my husband had kidney stones. He denied feeling ill and all the pain all summer until he needed emergency surgery. (By the way this was a repeat performance of needing ER surgery to have his gallery bladder removed after the months of denial.)

  The urologist found the cancer. Large tumor, Stage III, Gleason Score 9. Very aggressive cancer. 50/50 chance that 8 weeks of radiation will keep it from metastasis.

  I'm not saying run to the doctor for every little thing. Just be f*cking reasonable.
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  The Timing of Telling My Parents My College Plans.

  by WeatherLover in

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  i know that at some point i have to tell my parents that i'm planning to go to college.

  i basically have two options:.

  1. tell them early.

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  My daughter started college as a commuter at age 17 when I was still a JW. Her faded unbelieving father and I were committed to paying for all costs including commuting.

  The day our daughter turned 18, she put her bags by the front door, informed us that she had taken out a loan for the co-ed dorm and was moving out. This was exceedingly painful for me at the time, and our relationship was strained for ten years after. We are absolutely fine now.

  As a parent, I would vote for giving your parents a head's up, but only you can decide if you are ready to go it alone if they kick you out.

  Wishing you all the best,

  Diane
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  David-Jay, thank you for your kind words.
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Dubstepped, the comment triggered my PTSD. No judgement against you. Just reality.

  So if I don't concede to your bullying, you believe the best approach is to judge me?

  but if you do care to understand others here's your chance.
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  A quick Biblical question....

  by dubstepped in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my wife and i were talking about how religions claim to be directed by god, yet god never seemed to let any of them know about the danger of sexual predatora to children.

  the it hit me, does the bible say anything on the subject?

  is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

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  Is there a thou shalt not diddle kids scripture?

  What a horrible way to phrase this question. Clearly, you have never been sexually assaulted, nor has anyone you love.

  PS Maybe there is time for you to rethink and edit your question on behalf of those who might be triggered by it. Of late, nearly every time I come to this site, I ask myself, "Just what we're you thinking?"
  
  
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  So, the Womens March ... What Is It For?

  by Simon in

  1. social
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  it seems like mobilizing after the election, which seems pointless.

  i keep hearing demands for equal rights but don't understand what rights they are missing exactly.. normally a march is to show the support (and potential votes) for a cause, but ... votes for what?

  ... and the election happened already.. is anyone else confused?

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  In answer to the OP, this is what the Women's March is all about:

  https://medium.com/@dinachka82/about-your-poem-1f26a7585a6f#.2u8qzmywp
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  Wife is Awake

  by freemindfade in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  following the news of stuckinarut2, over the past few months my wife has completely mentally woken up.

  i've been meaning to post but haven't had the time.

  i saw stuckins post and i figured i'd add my news too.

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  How great is this! ! ! Fantastic news for you and your wife, freemindfade!
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  Forever Young

  by AllTimeJeff in

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  hey everyone.

  so this is what 10 years out feels like.

  employed, paying bills, and watching the slow demise of planet earth.

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  Jeff, nice to see you here! The indoctrination of young minds that you describe was very much my experience. None of my family ever became JWs, but my father accepted a study for the family at a very unstable and vulnerable time for us all.

  I was nine years old. By the time I was 10, I wanted to get baptized. I just wanted to do what was right. My non-believing dad finally allowed me to get baptized when I was 16. I had already spent several summers "temporary pioneering" by then (75 hours a month). I turned down several college scholarships to "full-time pioneer" (100 hours a month) in the rurals of North Dakota. I was married to a MS by age 19.

  All in all I was in for 42 years. It was a painful, slow awakening for me, but I walked away when I was 52. I'm so impressed and happy for those who figure things out at a much younger age. Enjoy your freedom!

  Diane
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  HULU's - The Path

  by babygirl30 in

  1. jw
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  this show is a.m.a.z.i.n.g!!!!.

  ...anyone that has been in a strict religion.

  ...anyone that has been in a high control cult or movement/organization.

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  I was impressed with season one. They were able to portray the cult atmosphere accurately, sometimes without words. For example, the total lack of boundaries was depicted by people in authority bursting uninvited into a room (even a bedroom) with a closed door. Apparently, there are no locks at The Path's compound.
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  Mom died, How and When I found out

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi friends,.

  it's been awhile since i've been talkative.

  thought i'd give you an account of my latest family dysfunction.. a brief backstory is that i am an only child whose parents were born in jw's.

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  3rdgen, I'm so terribly sorry for the pain you are experiencing. I know what it is like to be a caregiver for an abusive, aging parent. It does drain your last bit of strength, both phyically and emotionally.

  Just know that you did the best you could by your mother, and please try not take her clearly deranged behavior personally. Mental illness and dementia can be among the most demanding illnesses on the family. JW crap only adds to the pain of the situation.

  Please take good care of yourself,

  Diane